A few years ago, I was at a point in my life when everything was sour. I was quite low, I felt alone like nobody understood or even cared for me. My relationship was sour, I was failing at university, I hated my job at the time and my friends seemed to have deserted me. I was so concerned about what people thought about me, if they liked me and why they treated me badly. I really thought there was something wrong with me.
I would always take to heart the negative things that people would do or say to me and these would even make my depression deeper. I decided to travel alone to take some time off, now I know this was the turning point in my life. I was in a bus in Thailand on my way to a rural province, I was staring out the window at all the people walking on the side of the road and thought to myself…….. ‘what I think about them does not bother them as I am not a part of their lives and they are not a part of mine. My opinions of them whether positive or negative can only affect them if they accept to listen and believe’. I then realized that I had the power to choose what I listened to, what I was exposed to and what I believed in.
I came back with a renewed confidence in myself knowing that only I had the power to change my life. I also realized that I was subconsciously changing my life by allowing and acting on other peoples’ opinions of me. Understanding that I would never make everyone happy was especially a hard concept to grasp. I had always been a people pleaser, I wanted everyone to regard me highly but that was never going to happen. I could have been the juiciest peach in the bowl and yet there would be someone allergic to peaches.
Human emotions seem complicated but are quite simple to understand. We all want to feel important loved and respected. How people treat other people is a reflection of who they are and the deep rooted issue they might have. People will try and put you down to fill the void they have. A person who is well rounded and has self esteem does not need to make someone else feel lesser.
So next time someone talks crap about you , remember, it will only make you feel bad if you allow it. The person probably wants to get a negative reaction from you…..don’t give in !! Choose wisely who you welcome into your life. Speak positivity, love, growth and success into your life and see what happens.
We have so much power within us, we just have to dig a little deeper.
Asante na Kwaheri ( Thank You and Goodbye )