Sometime last year I found a book that was filled with short stories I had written while in high school. The stories took me back to a happy time in my life filled with imagination and a world full of possibilities. As I was reading page after page, I came across a list of what I wanted to achieve in the next ten years. I realized I had not accomplished half of what I had written. I also realized how much I missed writing short stories so I decided to take action and rekindle my love of writing and that’s how this blog came to be.
Most people live their life with no clue at all as to what they want to do with their lives. When we are young, our minds are filled with so much imagination and creativity which somehow vanishes as we grow older. We have essentially become a society of robots, living to earn and earning to live.
Below are a few tips that I found really helpful in finding my happy place, my purpose. I am not there yet, but I am certainly on the right path.
1. Why do you want to find your purpose in the first place?
I decided to figure out what my life’s purpose was because I often had this empty feeling, like there was something missing. I had done everything according to the book. I travelled, graduated from university, did an internship and got an excellent job but I still was not happy or content. Every single day I would get ready, drive to work through traffic, miserably work for eight hours, drive home through traffic, have dinner, watch TV and go to bed ready to repeat the same the next day. EVERY SINGLE DAY!!
I could not imagine doing this for another five years. I wanted to get a job that I would enjoy spending eight hours or more without being miserable. I wanted to do something that would make me forget to eat. I just didn’t know what it was!!!
If you are not happy, that is reason enough to re-evaluate your life.
2. It’s never too late to start again – don’t get stuck in a rut because of what everyone thinks
Quitting my job was the hardest decision I had to make in this journey. I had an excellent job but I was unhappy. It was also my only source of income and leaving would make my life less comfortable. I was also afraid of what my family would think, I had done so well for myself so far and the last thing I wanted was to disappoint them. I decided to talk to my mom and she gave me the confidence and assurance that I was making the right decision. She told me that not every day will be a good day but if I am having more bad days than good, I need to change something.
* Prior to any drastic action, make sure you talk to someone about it, another opinion always helps to put things into perspective.
* Once you’ve made a decision to start again, know that it won’t be easy, it will be hard, you will be judged, the idea to go back will appear appealing when you have bad days and you will also get a lot of pressure from the society to conform but stick to your path NO MATTER WHAT!!
3. If you were told you would die tomorrow, what would you wish you would have done?
It is definitely not a good thought but it does get you thinking of what you love. It could be a lot of things because we all have a lot of passions. Be it a hobby or a career choice, make a strategy and start doing it.
A successful future begins when you make the choice that you are tired of doing what you did today
4. Believing in yourself is half of the battle
I learned hard and quick that what other people think of me is none of my business because at the end of the day, it is my life and it should be no one’s obligation other than mine to make it better.
You need to be able to believe in yourself especially when nobody believes in you.
I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul
5. Get out and try different things, be a jack of all trades
I thought that I had one particular thing that was my purpose and that I would be good at it but I soon found myself depressed because I could not find that one thing.
**Try everything, get out of your comfort zone and you will be surprised at what you find out about yourself**
6. You don’t need a lot of people but the right people in your life
A lot of people will dump their ‘garbage’ in your life and it is up to you if you take it in. You have to remember that not everyone is happy for you and they might not even know it. A lot of people are miserable in their own lives; don’t let that rub on you. Surround yourself with positive people who are happy in their life journey because your input determines your output.
You cannot fix negative friends so keep your distance and surround yourself with people who empower you. You might even end up inspiring your negative friends to change. Last but not least, if you are a spiritual person, remember to put God first, he is EVERYTHING!!
Have a great journey !!